6 Ways to Have Better Sex
Sometimes the only adjustment needed is a few exercises that improve the act of making love.
Although the practices below can be done alone, they are best practiced while making love with your partner.
Touch and Be Touched
The body is one big erogenous zone. Don’t focus your touching exclusively on the genitals, breasts, or buttocks. Let your hands explore the more neglected areas for a greater impact on lovemaking. the feet, for instance, are highly sensitive to touch. To see how powerful this rule can be, the next time you make love, agree to go 30 minutes without touching the sexual areas of the body.
Encourage Your Partner
To prevent worrying, “I’m taking too long” or “This won’t work,” partners should cheer each other on by using positive statements such as, “I’m enjoying this, take as long as you want.”
Be in the Moment
While making love, put all thoughts out of your head. Instead, focus on the sensations of your five senses. When you catch your mind drifting, bring it back.
Never Compare Lovers
You’ve learned your skills from your past, but your partner doesn’t need to hear about your schooling. Concentrate on mastering your techniques with your current partner.
An Affair of the Heart, Mind, and Soul
A romantic relationship is an emotionally intimate bond between two people.
Such a relationship is best when it is with someone who knows you, understands you, and accepts you. It is enhanced through talking intimately about feelings, thoughts, and needs.
Sometimes when the qualities of a romantic relationship are not met, one or
both partners seek them outside the relationship in an affair. An affair can be as exhilarating as it is destructive to the relationship. When a person in a relationship feels the temptation to have an affair, it’s usually because the romance in the relationship has stopped being important. Keep this thought in the back of your mind as you search for ways to inject more romance into your relationship.
Make Your Relationship an Affair to Remember
When you think of an affair, what comes to mind? Passion? Romance? Attachment to another person? That’s exactly what an affair is; however, the downside is that it is typically associated with a limited duration, not to mention, causing a great deal of pain to your primary partner. But, what if you could extend an affair and make it an everyday and lifelong occasion with your partner? You can do it; it’s just a matter of decision.
The way to make this happen is to turn your relationship into an affair. The first step to doing this is to know just exactly what needs are met by an affair: feeling desired, being loved, feeling needed, sexual fulfillment, being understood, close friendship, intellectual stimulation, feeling complete, attachment, and being listened to.
Look over these characteristics and ask yourself which of these qualities you provide for your partner. The ideal way to use this list is to sit down with your partner and take turns putting this list in order of which characteristics you feel the strongest, down to those you feel the least.
When each of you has completed your list, compare notes with your partner to see the order you put the characteristics in. Pay special attention to the last few items because they will tell you the areas that you need to work on with your partner. The goal of this exercise is to identify the areas that are holding you back from having an affair with your partner.
You can do the same with your partner. Look at the feeling that they put on the bottom of the ranking list. Then ask them what they need that would help them get a stronger sense of that feeling. You’ll be surprised at how this simple exercise will illuminate important feelings that your partner has been experiencing.
This exercise many times reveals feelings that are new to both partners. When you are able to strengthen your weak areas, your relationship will be the love affair you always wanted.
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