How To Make Her Happy In Bed
What makes a WOMAN great in bed?
This article is inspired by “Revolutionary Sex” by Alex Allman.

How To Make a Woman Happy In Bed

If you said: “She gives her all,” I’m sure you’re not alone, and I’m sure there are a lot of other answers along similar themes of what she does “technically” well.

But at the end of the day, I think what most men think of as “great in bed” comes down to enthusiasm.

The main thing most guys DON’T like is a girl who just lays there like a starfish. You want a girl who gets INTO it. Who digs what you are doing, and lets you know by making a lot of sexy noises.

Don’t Be Boring in Bed

I sometimes hear guys complaining about some girl that they were with, and how she just laid there like she was bored.

Let me let you in on a secret. Whenever I hear a guy say something like that, I can’t help but wonder, maybe that’s because she WAS bored?

See, a woman once asked me, very directly, if I was any good in bed.

Now, what I DIDN’T tell her was, “baby, I wrote a book on the subject, come home with me and I’m gonna rock your world.”

First of all, that would have been a dumb-ass thing to say, and women hate guys that brag about any of their accomplishments or possessions, it just makes you look incredibly insecure.

But also, I didn’t say that because it’s not necessarily true.

See, I really believe that “skills and techniques” are fine, but truly great sex comes from compatibility.

It takes two.

So, I’m thinking when those guys said the girl was just lying there looking bored, well, maybe it wasn’t the girl’s fault at all.

It takes two.

Now, personally, I really, really like it when a girl totally loses control of herself from coming so hard, that she just screams her head off.

That’s MY idea of a woman who is good in bed.

But, let’s face it, unless she’s faking it, that means that for her to be good in bed for me, I’ve got to be good in bed for her.

What To Do When She’s Shy in Bed

Now, if you are fairly experienced in the bedroom, you might be saying to yourself right now, “wait a minute, Alex, some girls are just shy, they don’t make a lot of noise no matter how hard they come.”

Yeah, I know the type, the girls that just breath harder and faster when they have an orgasm, but, for one reason or another, they don’t “let it out” and get their scream on. Well, I make them scream. And you can too.

Here’s the thing, when a girl is not screaming she is holding herself back. And even though she may think she’s really getting off and that she doesn’t need to make noise to prove it. The truth is, because she is holding herself back, she is probably NOT experiencing orgasms that are anywhere near as powerful as she is capable of.

In fact, she may not be experiencing a true orgasm at all.

Giving Her an Orgasm

I have been with women who THOUGHT that they had orgasms, but really, they were just feeling a lot of sexual excitement, which felt really good, and so they figured, hmm, that must be what orgasms feel like.

It didn’t occur to them that maybe there was something else, something bigger, that they were not experiencing.

It wasn’t until I had actually brought them over the edge that they realized, “Oh my God, so THAT’S what an orgasm feels like!”

They didn’t even realize what they were missing.

The interesting thing is, for many of these girls who had their first orgasm with me, it wasn’t a technique or lasting longer, or anything like that that made the difference.

It was the act of screaming itself that caused most of them to have their first orgasm.

Okay, it wasn’t the screaming that was DIRECTLY doing it. It was the act of letting themselves go enough, it was allowing themselves to relax and just let it out, it was the release of their inhibitions to make noise…
…that simultaneously released their inhibitions to fully experience an orgasm unlike anything they had experienced before.

In way, having a screaming orgasm is a self-perpetuating cycle for a woman. It’s a feedback loop.

Allowing themselves to scream makes them come harder… much harder… which makes them scream their heads off… which makes them come harder.

You get the idea.

Unfortunately, you can’t get this great result by just saying to a girl, “okay, I’d like you to scream now while we are having sex.”

Doesn’t work like that.

The reality is that, in order to get her to let go, I mean really let go and be completely unselfconscious about it, you are going to have to get her comfortable enough to surrender over her body, to YOU.

This is a very big deal. And it is why sex is (or can be when it’s truly amazing) so incredibly intimate for women.

Women can’t give this incredible experience to themselves. They can only achieve these heights with a lover, somebody who they can surrender control to.

It’s hard for guys to wrap their brains around, and I’ve tried to explain it many different ways.

Maybe this example will resonate:

Have you ever done something with a buddy that you would have been afraid to do alone?

Like, maybe you went someplace that you knew was really dangerous, and if you were on your own, you wouldn’t have had the guts to go, and if he was on his own, he wouldn’t have had the guts either, but together, even though it was still every bit as dangerous, you had the confidence to do it because you knew your pal had your back.

Well, it’s not a perfect example, but maybe it helps you get the idea.

Setting an Intimate and Erotic Mood

She can’t go to this place that “feels” dangerous to her all by herself. In fact, she can’t make the decision to go there, she needs you to take her by the hand and guide her.

This is probably the most important thing you’ll ever read about making love, and I highly recommend you get more information on the subject by clicking here.

Never forget that this kind of intimacy and extreme pleasure can be scary for her. So anything you can do to put her at ease is going to go a long way.

I think it’s a good idea to start with MUSIC. It’s a simple tip, but a good one.

Playing music serves two very important roles in this situation:

The first is that if you play it reasonably loud, it gives her some cover for the noise that she is making. It takes more surrender to make noise in a silent room than a loud one. It lets her experiment with making more noise without the neighbors noticing.

The second reason is that music affects our emotions, and it especially affects women’s emotions. And it is through her emotions that she will eventually reach the point of trust and intimacy to release herself.

What music should you play?

This is important: Play the music that SHE wants to hear. What YOU think it sexy music is all well and good, but right now we are working on HER feelings.

Once you’ve got the music going, the next step is to get her to add her voice to the music.

If she’s already doing some heavy breathing and making small noises, the next thing to do, as weird as this sounds, is, give her something to say.

In fact, I’m going to be very specific. Tell her to say your name. This isn’t for everyone and it’s not a 100% thing, but it can work very well.

The idea is to make her engage her vocal cords when she is at the height of her excitement or when she is actually having an orgasm.

Tell her to say your name, out loud, as she is coming, and she might very well involuntarily SCREAM your name.

Now there is another psychological/emotional reason for having her say your name, rather than shouting out, say, “Hallelujah!”

For one thing, it is an intimacy builder. It is a nice, bonding thing for her to associate you and the sound of your name coming out of her own mouth, to her most profound pleasure.

The other reason is that it gets her out of her “self” and into thoughts of “you” which will help her to reach the point of surrender that I was talking about earlier.

For a woman to reach her most amazing peak of pleasure, she will have to make it “your fault.” She will not go there from her own permission. So putting your name into her thoughts at that moment sometimes does the trick.


Okay, now we are going to move into some slightly more advanced territory.

One of the most powerful ways to get her to release her inner banshee is to completely eliminate any hint of your own sexual shyness. Look, it’s not your fault, and nobody is completely free of any insecurities, so this can be more difficult than it sounds.

Women have very strong intuition, and they sense when we are uncomfortable.

But let’s face the facts, if you want her to be completely uninhibited in bed, it is asking an awful lot if you are coming to bed with a bunch of your own insecurities.

Anything you do that tips her off to the fact that you are not feeling 100% comfortable and in control of the situation is going to work against you.

What kinds of things will tip her off?

Nervous laughter, any kind of defensive or angry remarks towards her if anything goes differently than you expected, and any feelings of frustration are a few.

But the bigger ones are any time you try to do something to make yourself look “cool” or say something to brag.

This kind of thing is a big tip-off for women that you are insecure. The most secure and powerful thing you can do in the bedroom is to be authentic. And the other big one is to express passion yourself.

Very few men have the confidence it takes to show their true passion and really lose themselves in the act of making love. Those that do win instant trust and passion in return.

  • You can’t fake this kind of thing.
  • Authenticity is everything.
Because in the end, what you are trying to do is win her sexual trust.

When she sees that you are coming to her with your guard down and all of your filters turned off, her body will respond to you in ways that you can’t imagine.

It takes only one thing to be really authentic with a woman:

If you follow these simple steps, it should not take long before your previously shy woman is screaming her head off, waking up the neighbors, and begging you for more.

Quick warning: some women like to scream “please stop,” or “No, no, I can’t take any more,” and stuff of that nature. This can often result in overly concerned neighbors calling the police. You might want to tell her to shout out your name instead. “Oh my God” is also okay.

And, as I mentioned, this is a pretty good tip for giving a woman who has never experienced an orgasm, her very first one.

Of course, there is sometimes much more to it than that but the issue is definitely related.

If you feel like you are ready to learn the really advanced ideas and techniques for totally mastering a woman’s sexuality, and becoming the kind of lover that women BRAG about, then it may be time to take the next step.

Not every guy is going to ever get there, in fact, almost by definition, most won’t. Ask any woman, and she’ll tell you, most men are clueless in bed, even though THEY think they have it all figured out.

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