How to Get Off Your Ass to Meet Women
The habit of avoiding the discomfort of meeting women is deeply engrained in most men over years, so getting over it usually isn’t an instant process. It takes some persistence.
Let’s look at a couple of psychological tools to help you be persistent and stretch your comfort zone so you can meet more of the women you want to date.
These are powerful attitudes that will help motivate you to approach women. When you see a woman you’re attracted to, simply remind yourself of the motivator to help move yourself into action.
- It’s less painful to approach than to not.
- It seems to your brain that it is more comfortable not to approach an attractive woman than it is to approach her.
But is that really true?
In the moment it certainly feels true for most guys. But is it really true?
I argue that it’s not. Because when you don’t approach, I bet a little part of you wishes you did. And that’s a bit uncomfortable. Maybe for some of you it’s very uncomfortable.
Whereas after you do approach, you’ll usually feel way more confident than if you hadn’t. You’ll have the rush of taking the initiative to talk to a pretty woman. You’ll be walking a little taller.
Make Meeting Women a Positive Habit
You won’t be feeling just comfortable, you’ll most likely be feeling absolutely on fire!
I know this might just seem like words on a page to you now, but I challenge you to tune in to how you’re feeling after you avoid approaching a woman, and then compare that to how you feel right after you do start such a conversation. The difference is powerful.
It’s up to you: Feel the regret of missing an opportunity, or feel the pleasure and confidence of approaching a woman. The choice is yours.
You Approach, You Win. No Matter What The Outcome.
As soon as you open your mouth and say that very first word to a woman, you should know in your own mind you’ve won and deserve congratulations.
There are a couple of reasons:
- You have just done what 90% of guys on the planet cannot do, and will never do, in their lifetime.
- You have just taken one more step to decreasing your fear and having freedom in this very important area in your life.
- You’ve just done something that will help you refine your skills and eventually give you the success with women you really want. You just have to learn from each interaction.
And your action just eliminated the possibility of wishing you had approached her for the rest of your day.
So good for you. Reward yourself for the action you took, not for the results you received.
Sometimes the very woman who you think would never in a million years give you the time of day will give you her number and date you. Sometimes all you have to do is open your mouth and say something, anything, and you will have a great experience of a really hot girl expressing interest in you.
If you are willing to open your mouth enough you will have these experiences. To a certain extent, it is a numbers game. But you must be willing to take action and risk. You can never anticipate how well an interaction is going to go. You never know until you go.
Sometimes she’d enjoy meeting you just as much as you’d enjoy meeting her. Some of the women you approach will be total sweethearts and really appreciate you talking to them. And those are the ones you want to date anyways, right?
Some Pretty Women Are Very Friendly
- Continue having a daily goal, even if it’s just doing step 1 with 1 woman a day. Every man has to start somewhere.
- Develop the habit of approaching any woman you want, anywhere she may be.
- Learn how not to be seen as a needy wuss.
- Discover how to use things like food and games as a perfect, legitimate way to begin to get physical.
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