How Will You Know If She’s Interested In You?
OK, I have a quick trick question for you.
That’s right, I said a quick trick question. How can you tell if a woman is interested in you?
So what gives?
Why am I asking you a trick question?
Because I’m trying to make you THINK.
I’m sure that, just like me, you’ve read a hundred books and articles that say things like:
- “If she tilts her head to one side and strokes her neck, that’s a sign of interest…”
- “If she licks her lips in a longing fashion, that means she’s interested in you…”
- “If she laughs a lot, makes positive eye contact, and touches you often, then she likes you…”
I remember when I first read all this stuff. I thought to myself “Wow, cool! I must have been missing these hints because I didn’t know to look for them. Now I’ll know when a woman is interested in me…”.
Well, there was one small problem…
The problem is that women display these major interest signals in about 1 of 1,000 interactions with men…
And there was one BIG problem…
That problem was that none of the damn books I read said a single thing about how to MAKE women give you these signals. In other words, what I realized is that average guys like me who don’t get “approached” by women need to learn not only what to look for, but, more importantly, how to actually create attraction in women so they gave me these signals in the first place.
So let me share with you some ideas on how to make women feel attraction for you… and then I’ll share some ideas on what to look for to tell if a woman is interested.
And my ideas will be a little bit different than the ones you read in your flirting books. OK, so you’re out at a bar with a few friends, and it’s time to meet some interesting women.
You look around, and none of the hot young babes in there seem to be tilting their heads to one side, looking you in the eye, and licking their lips… so you decide to do something.
What do most guys do in this situation?
- Nothing, because they’re scared, or…
- Something typical, like ask a girl to dance, or if he can buy her a drink.
If you’re guilty of doing these, raise your hand. Then take your raised hand, and slap yourself silly. Not too hard. But silly.
Here’s a thought for you…
If you put 100 guys in a bar with one beautiful women sitting alone, and you say to all 100 of the guys “Hey guys, which one of you can walk over to that woman and do something to make that woman feel a sexual attraction for you?”… I’d say that if you’re LUCKY, one of them will claim that he can do it.
In other words, for most guys, the idea of walking up to a girl they don’t know and doing something that will trigger an attraction is completely outside of their universe.
- This is one of the reasons why guys do things like asking girls to dance, buying them drinks, etc. Now, something you must understand when it comes to women and attraction is that women don’t feel attraction for wussies.
- attraction isn’t a choice.
It isn’t logical (at least, on the surface). But once you start to “get it”, everything changes. Your entire perspective changes once you “get it”, and your results change instantly as well. So here’s something for you to try: Mess with women. That’s right “mess with” them.
- Bust on.
- Be difficult.
Because it instantly communicates that:
You could care less what she thinks of you.
- You’re a fun person.
- You’re unpredictable.
- You’re a bit of a “wild card”
- You GET IT.
Now, you might be shaking your head right now and saying “That’s doesn’t make any sense. Why would a woman feel attracted to me if I mess with her instead of being nice?”. That’s a good question.
But for now, take the hand that you slapped yourself with earlier, and slap yourself again. Good.
I want you to stop following your “be nice and kiss ass” instincts when you first meet a woman, and instead practice messing with her.
Make fun of something. Go to hand her something, then pull it away at the last second. Shake your head in despair and tell her that she’s screwing up her chances with you. Say something Cocky & Funny, then turn around and walk away before she can respond to your face.
Can ya feel me, dog?
Now the good stuff…
HOW TO TELL IF SHE’S INTERESTED IN YOU
Well this is what you were looking for, so here it is…
I’m going to give you a stupid-proof formula for knowing whether or not a woman is interested in you.
Here it is:
- You engage her.
- She engages you back.
Yes, that’s it.
If I walk into a restaurant, and the hostess asks me how many are in my party, and I answer with “Well, there are three of us. I guess there will be four if YOU join us…” and she laughs at my joke, then it’s on!
If I’m standing at the bar, and the woman next to me bumps into my arm, and I turn and say “Hey, watch it, OK? Keep some space here, I need at least a foot of room…” in a serious tone of voice… and she starts playing along by smiling and moving away from me then back again playfully, then it’s on!
If I’m talking to a woman that I met at the magazine rack, and I ask her “What’s with that huge purse of yours? You got a dog in there or something?” and she starts laughing and making excuses, then it’s on!
In a nutshell, what I’m saying is:
- Stop looking around for signals from women that they’re “interested” in you.
- Stop caring whether or not a particular woman is interested in you.
- Instead, start triggering the interest, and watching to see if women engage. If they do, then assume that it’s on!
This article is inspired by “Double Your Dating” by David Deangelo.
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