Are Your Dating Goals the Same as His?
This article could also be titled “How to NOT have sex and keep your man interested in a long term relationship” but it was just damn too long for the space I have in the title area.
And it’s true, I’m sure you are aware, than men put “sex” on the top of the mountain (analogy of their main goal in a relationship) and they want to reach that top as quickly as possible.
Now, if you’ve dated a few of these mountain climbers I know that you know that things just didn’t work out afterwards. He lost interest. The anticipated journey was cut short because the mountain wasn’t as high as first suspected.
You relented (or were also so excited of the idea of being together) that sex happened earlier in the relationship than it should have and he lost interest. And now you know what a big mistake that was.
So maybe you swore off men for a while, or you decided to remain “man-free” for a while… however it turned out for you, there comes a time when you’ll be dating a guy again. And you’ll be confronted by the same set of circumstances, the same urges and hopefully not be making the same mistake about sex again.
You can read many men like a book as far as sex and relationships go. They’re interested in you, they’re interested in a deep relationship or they’re interested in “getting the deed done” and moving on to the next warm body.
Who said I couldn’t be blunt?
The idea here isn’t to protect you from every man, that is something you have to do for yourself… the idea is to provide the tools so that you can not only protect yourself but understand not only why you do the things you do but why men do the things they do and in particular why you let men do the things they do to you!
When you’ve found a man that you’d like to date seriously, see how well things can go for you both, how the relationship can progress, whether or not he’s “The One” then why rush anything?
If a guy is a player then there is one other thing he also is, without fail: he’s impatient.
When a guy is committed to a relationship, sex is not the stepping stone that gets him there. Usually it’s the exact opposite: waiting for the intimacy that sex involves provides a woman with a deeper understanding about the man she is with and allows the man to understand his involvement with the woman.
Waiting to have sex should not be irritating
If you have a great first few dates, if you sense a great “connection” with him, why rush?
Now that I’ve seeded your consciousness with deep thoughts it’s time for you to answer this question as well: If you were provided the tools to make your relationships better, whether you are in one right now or soon to be, would you use them?
The Commitment Blueprint Program will give you REAL WORLD ANSWERS and solutions to the things you’re dealing with when it comes to men.
You can start by watching this video.
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